Thread: My bf keeps getting sex/casual spam that is dating – can I get worried or run?

 

Thread: My bf keeps getting sex/casual spam that is dating – can I get worried or run?

My bf keeps getting sex/casual dating spam mail – must I get worried or run?

Hello. I want to begin by letting you know about myself. We am a tremendously intelligent, fiercely separate, and appealing 41 12 months old mom of three (21, 19 & 18). that I have actually raised by myself. I will be now at quickflirt a true point in my own life where At long last have the freedom to devote myself up to a relationship. Back in July 2013, we came across a man online and we also’ve been together since. Really, now we have been residing together. To tell the truth, at the beginning, i did not think he had been my type that is exact we was thinking I would personally provide him the opportunity. After a few months of dating, things he stated never ever began incorporating up. Therefore, after some investigating, knew he had explained a lies that are few. Whenever very very first confronted. he attempted to lie about this more. Justifying the lies by saying he just wished to be ideal for me personally. This nearly broke us up. But we gave us another opportunity. I would ike to add, among the lies had been which he have been alone (no relationships or intercourse) since their final relationship that is serious that has been 2 yrs past. I found that hard to trust, but I experienced been alone for more than four years (by option) – therefore I offered him the main benefit of the question. Who was simply we to state otherwise? After offering me passwords to their facebook and e-mail records (to trust that is earn i came across conversations along with other girl which suggested he had had numerous flings. Even communications to buddies saying he would been with more than 15 ladies in 30 days! once I confronted him once more. he reported. it absolutely was bull crap. simply dudes playing it to produce himself look good. In the last couple of months, i’ve found which he had active records on other internet dating sites. Once I looked over the experience, there is nothing current. I inquired him he told me to delete everything about it and. He really loves me personally and forgot he also had them. So we did. Now, recently, he has got been spam that is getting from web web web sites like “flirt” f*ckbuddy” and others. Whenever he is asked by me. he simply claims it is spam and ahead do go a look it over and delete every thing we find. He first laughs for not trusting him about it when confronted. and then gets mad at me. because far as i’m concerned – he could be damn happy to possess me personally and I also have always been furious of this possibility which he could possibly be searching somewhere else for excitement. seeing that he hardly touches me personally. I will be frustrated because he only wishes intercourse as he desires it and I also is not “in the feeling” without getting accused of throwing a tantrum because I will be maybe not “getting any”. He informs me if i would like anyone to “rail me personally each night” to get find some other person”. This hurts me personally because i’m extremely appealing and in good physical shape. Evidently i will be great during intercourse and all of their buddies (young and old) simply tell him he has a brilliant hot girlfriend and “what is she doing with you?”. He could be beside me on a regular basis and renders their phone and passwords available in my situation to see at any moment. Therefore I can not see him really cheating on me personally. What exactly you think. he could be telling me personally the facts or becoming produced complete trick?

Final modified by tbay72; 04-12-2014 at 11:43 AM .

I believe he could be getting spam because he had been on countless web sites.

We also think you have got settled.for somebody you are attempting to make fit. Your libidos are not in sync, he’s got a tendency to lie and there has been sufficient “chances” given spread. Life is simply too quick to stay for “Mr OK”.

>>he’d been with more than 15 ladies in a month! ..seeing me. while he scarcely touches . he’s got been getting spam mail from web internet sites like “flirt” f*ckbuddy” and many more.

okay, that together results in problems that are potential.

First, you realize he lies.

If he’s seeing 15 females a he could have a taste for anonymous ‘dirty’ sex month. Numerous males had been raised on porn movies and certainly will obtain a style for the type of ‘dirty woman’ thing although not wanting their girl that is regular to ‘dirty’. Therefore he wishes his intercourse become ‘dirty’ with random females, but their wishes their partner to be ‘clean’ and most likely does not wish ‘normal’ intercourse he can’t resolve that old fashioned tramp/madonna complex with her much because his appetite is for ‘dirty’ and. And that means you’re their Madonna, and they are their tramps. So he will not be too enthusiastic about intercourse to you if he is busily shagging girls shopping for dirty/porn type sex from the part.

And also the dirty spam many most most likely means he is been visiting sites for porn or even connect, that get him on email lists for intercourse spam. He is perhaps maybe perhaps not planning to obtain a sex spam e-mail list from visiting most sites that are non-sex but are certain to get their current email address offered to many other intercourse sites/spam if he visits web web web sites that pander to porn or sex hookups.

And this would certainly offer me pause. The worst thing is the lying, particularly about their intimate history. He could be lying about making love along with other ladies, and SAYING he could be lying about sex with 15 girls to their buddies, as he might very well be doing both, exaggerating the quantity a bit to wow their buddies, yet nevertheless seeing ladies on the medial side as f*buddies. In which he’s 40s, not 15! that bragging bravado is ridiculous at their age.

Thus I think this will offer me pause. While making me go directly to the physician to have tested for STDs. The truth is he could provide you with their passwords for e-mail, phone, FB etc., however it is ridiculously simple to produce another e-mail and FB account under another title (or simply just make use of a variation of his very own) and do not inform you of it. And acquire a burner phone that you do not find out about to set up hookups along with other females. I’m sure a womanizer which is precisely what he did. He previously one identity that is formal variety of makes up about their spouse, and various accounts/phone for their other ladies.

And in case a man who had been allowed to be my BF switched me straight straight down for intercourse? Ummm no, he would get dumped. He is most likely sex along with other females frequently sufficient which he does not need/want it from you. If he is the kind who would like a ‘pure’ GF and lots of trampy women in the part, it might additionally explain this sort of behavior.

You might you will need to investigate more to see if he’s cheating from the part. (personal detective? keylogger on your personal computer?). But truthfully I do not understand if I would stick with a liar or somebody rejecting me personally sexually like he does you. I dated some guy whom ended up to possess a complete live that is double the medial side taking place, and also the 2nd you do not feel you can rely on someone or that they are liars/hiding their genuine selves, it really is essentially over.

I am divorced for 6 years and I also still get spam sex mail on my account. This will be password that is MY. and it also states, Hi wanna be my f**k buddy and keep in mind me personally? This really is. blah, blah, blah.

We have it on a regular basis! So with that said, spam sex email messages are nothing.

The rest of the material. I’m not sure.

Whenever my ex bf had an event, an element of the recovery and getting him being ‘transparent’ past it was. like providing you with the device, passwords etc.

He could be doing all that. & Most individuals on right right here would think WOW you might be overstepping your boundaries. So my estimation is, he desires you and just you. and if you do not lay from the nagging him about this. He shall get fed up with it and perhaps look someplace else.

As opposed to thinking exactly how wonderful and hot YOU WILL BE. start thinking just exactly how wonderful he could be by providing you complete use of everything he has got! In my opinion he could be bending over backwards to show for you he’s trustworthy!

The way the heck i missed the ‘he hardly touches me personally’ I do not understand. Perhaps he’s experiencing like he is getting used as being a ‘sex machine’. lol I had a guy who said that once when it was wanted by me!

But like i said, the spam is absolutely nothing.